have them, you know. We may not speak of them often, but they're there.
And sometimes, in our fast-paced and hurried lives, it's nice to be reminded
of the expectations we do have for our relationships; how we treat one
another, how we see one another, and how we care for one another... especially
when it comes to our relationships with our children - our own children,
our students, our neighborhood children, those we babysit, our nieces
and nephews, ...
I stumbled across a reflection entitled The Childrens' Ten Commandments
for Adults. You may have read it already. I know I've seen it a number
of times over my life, but never took enough time to fully absorb its
message. So today, I share with you those ten commandments:
Childrens' Ten Commandments for Adults
hands are small. Please don't expect perfection whenever I make a
bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short. Please slow
down so that I can keep up with you.
eyes have not seen the world as yours have. Please let me explore
safely. Don't restrict me unnecessarily.
will always be there. I'm only little for such a short time. Please
take time to explain things to me about this wonderful world, and
do so willingly.
feelings are tender. Please be sensitive to my needs. Don't nag me
all day long. (You wouldn't want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness.)
Treat me as you would like to be treated.
am a special gift from God. Please treasure me, holding me accountable
for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me
in a loving manner.
need your encouragement and your praise to grow. Please go easy on
the criticism. Remember, you can criticize the things I do without
give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me
to fail so that I can learn from my mistakes. Then someday, I'll be
prepared to make the kind of decisions life requires of me.
don't do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts
didn't quite measure up to your expectations. I know it's hard, but
please don't try to compare me with my brother or my sister.
don't be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need vacations
from parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides, it's
a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.
take me to worship regularly, setting a good example for me to follow.
you have time this week, print out this reflection and read these ten
"commandments" again - this time, read them as if they are coming
from your aging parent, a disabled friend, a loving spouse or significant
other. Not all the wording may fit the particular person, but there is
at least one "commandment" that fits each of them - especially
numbers 2, 4 and 6.
while you're reading them for others, consider these same requests from
yourself to others. As number 5 states, my friend, you are "a special
gift from God" as well.